Ask Nutty BBy Nutty B
Nutty B is currently a graduate student at MIT. Please e-mail him with whatever question you would like someone to listen to, and help him have an excuse to procrastinate at 3 a.m. Please send all questions to askNuttyB@yahoo.com
Dear Nutty B,
Everyone in my research group thinks I am in love with this guy in another group, but I am not. What’s worse is that everyone in the other group also thinks I am in love with this guy. What should I do?
-- Loveless Maggie
Dear Loveless Maggie,
There is only one solution I can think of really. I think you and that guy should just “go with the flow,” so to speak, and go out on dates then get married and then live happily ever after. If not, then perhaps you should just go out with Nutty B on a date, marry him and live happily ever after!
What causes people from both groups to think you are in love with this guy?
Do you visit him 10 times a day, and vice versa? Do you hang out all the time and will not go to the washroom without the other’s company? Are you on the phone and AIM or MSN Messenger constantly with this lucky lad? If so, then perhaps you should really follow Nutty B’s advice and just get married with him!
On the other hand, if none of the scenarios I suggest is true, then perhaps you don’t have to mind what others think about you. You are you, and there is no need to worry too much about what others think.
It’s rare but very fortunate to have a good friend to hang out with and to share time with each other. Treasure it when you have the chance to have such good company! Believe in yourself and be self-confident! Take care!
Hello Nutty B,
It’s only October but I miss home already. I’ve always considered myself [to be] an independent and strong person, but somehow I have started to miss home.
I am a freshman. Does this have something to with this being my first time away from home for so long? Am I weak? Do I need help?
So you miss home huh? Poor Nutty B does, too! When everyone was celebrating Columbus Day just a few days ago, Nutty B was eating turkey in his apartment celebrating Canadian Thanksgiving while listening to “O Canada” over and over in his apartment.
Every little thing reminded him of the great white north: The Molson Canadian beer, the hockey stick he uses to hit his roommate, the broom for curling and apartment cleaning, the Canadian bacon ... you name it!
There is nothing wrong with missing home, and I don’t think you are weak at all. Your family is supposed to be the people to whom you can turn when you need help or when you need emotional support.
Are you missing home because of the stress you get from school? Are you not adjusting well because you have no one you can talk with until the morning? Well, welcome to life! Everyone has to go through a series of steps of growing up, and just see this as your step one. Talk to your roommates, sorority sisters, classmates, or whomever if you need help with classes.
Call your family once a while just to say hi and let them say hi to you. Sometimes a familiar voice does wonders when you are down! If you don’t have any friends, well, then make some! Go to social events in your dorm or find a few people to form a study group. There are always people around. Make this new life experience as enjoyable, or at least bearable, as you can.
Overcome obstacles instead of being overwhelmed by them!