Ask Nutty BBy Nutty B
Nutty B is currently a graduate student at MIT, and this is his first attempt ever to be (or pretending to be) an advice columnist. Please e-mail him with whatever question you would like someone to listen to, and help him have an excuse to procrastinate at 3:00 a.m. Please send all questions to askNuttyB@yahoo.com.
Dear Nutty B,
I have this roommate that does not wash his dishes and just piles of plates and bowls in the kitchen sink. I don’t know what to do anymore. I don’t want to confront him and hurt our friendship, but I just can’t stand our kitchen being so dirty. What should I do?
Simple. You take all the dishes and bowls from the sink and put them either on your roommate’s desk or in front of his door. It depends on the layout of the room and your level of rage.
I used to live with a dirty pig, too. So I totally understand how you feel. I used to have to wear my military uniform and get my disciplinary baton and leather whip once a week to make sure the other guy knew who was the master what were the consequences for being a naughty, dirty boy.
Whenever there is a conflict, the best way, at least initially, is to talk it out with the other party. You may find it difficult to say the words in person, but how about sending him an e-mail or leaving him a note kindly asking him to clean up after he finishes using the kitchen? Everyone deserves at least a warning. Perhaps your roommate has no idea what he does bothers you. Maybe he still thinks he is the cleanest person in the world.
Try talking with him first. And if it still doesn’t work, I have my baton and handcuff you can borrow!
Dear Nutty B,
Sometimes I just feel so alone. I feel I have no one to talk to, or if I talk to someone, nobody really understands me. Am I just weird or my life is just boring?
Trust me, your life can’t be as boring as mine. Look at me! I have nothing else more interesting to do than writing this response to you at 2:00 a.m.!
You feel you have no one to talk to? Have you tried inventing a friend? You see, my computer -- “Julio” -- sometimes talks to me when I am bored. He has been a great company so far.
Perhaps you should create some voices in your head so you are constantly with someone? One of my buddies has several voices in his head and he never complains about a lack of company! Of course I usually run into him debating with himself on which voice to listen to.
Friendship doesn’t come instantaneously. A good friendship takes time to build. It has nothing to do with you being weird or your life being boring. It simply means you should open your heart to more people and to the possibility of finding a genuine friend.
Talk to your family when you are alone. Speak with your roommate when you just need someone to listen. Ask your professors for advice when you are lost.
People are always around and they are usually not as scary as we think they are. Good luck!