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'Sex Matters' Event To Discuss Sexuality

By Eric Sit

International "sexpert" Jay Friedman will give his "Sex Matters" lecture at 7:00 p.m. in Kresge Auditorium this evening.

Subtitled "Insights and Outbursts on Love, Sex, and Dating," Friedman's lecture is designed to entertain while educating his audience about important and timely sexuality issues. The talk is sponsored by the Interfraternity Council.

"Healthy relationships enhance our lives," Friedman said. "Unfortunately, we live in a sex-negative, sex-phobic, and sex-repressed society which has trouble talking about sex and provides inadequate sex education."

Friedman said that his "sex-positive message" helps people learn to avoid problems like AIDS, unintended pregnancy, and date rape while enabling them to enjoy sexuality as a natural part of their lives.

Some of the "insights and outbursts" the audience will hear include the differences between love and lust, ways to be more romantic, interesting pick-up lines, and how to make condoms feel "oh-so-much better," according to the event's program.

With help from Wayne and Garth, Seinfeld, and other pop culture icons, Friedman will offer his audiences tips for building healthy relationships. Unafraid to tackle even the toughest sexuality issues such as date rape and homophobia, he will offer additional challenges to men as part of his lecture.

"It's not our fault as men that we are sometimes socialized to be sexually irresponsible," said Friedman, himself unique as a man in his profession.

"However, it's our fault if we don't change. Ibelieve men have the capacity, and hopefully the desire, to be better lovers.After all, men have the same needs for love, romance, and affection as women do - even if we won't always admit it!" Friedman said.

IFCaims to educate its members

Although the talk is sponsored by the IFC as a Residence and Orientation Week event for its members, it is open to the entire MIT community.

"I think it is good that the Interfraternity Council can provide this education for its members," said Assistant Dean for Residence and Campus Activities Neal H. Dorow, adviser to fraternities, sororities, and independent living groups. "We hope to broaden the experience it can provide to its members," he said.

The instruction could have been "on an individual basis, but it is much better if we can do it for all" FSILGs, Dorow said. A public seminar "enables more people to get this education."

"This program is targeted at anybody who is interested," Dorow said, although it is mandatory for all new residential members of FSILGs.

"Everyone knows the stereotypical view of FSILG students. We are working to break this mold" with this talk, said Duane H. Dreger '99, IFC community relations chair.

Talk part of awareness program

The talk is one aspect of Stars of Education Program, initiated last year to address issues of sexual harassment, responsible use of alcohol, diversity, and scholarship. FSILGs groups receive a star if their entire new member class attends a program in one of the four areas.

"The four-star award program was made last year as a way to recognize those FSILGs who take extra steps to expand their generic pledge program," Dreger said.

This year, the IFC moved from a three-star program to a four -star one, adding the section on scholarship, Dreger said.

Last year, awards for the Stars of Education program were earned by Alpha Chi Omega, Alpha Epsilon Pi, Chi Phi, Kappa Alpha Theta, Sigma Nu, and Zeta Beta Tau.